Look out for the biggest Deadline of your life...!!

Average lifespan is 75 years, that’s 900 months and even in those 900 months, we spend so much time doing things we don’t want to do. We so much time in pleasing people we don’t actually like. We spend our time filling rows of excel sheets or writing thousands of lines on our desks. People are strange, they are constantly angered/triggered by trivial things, but on a major matter totally wasting their lives, they hardly seem to notice. Yes, people are irrational, but so are you. Make your acceptance of human nature as radical as possible.

When we turn 60, our knees feels weak and minds feel slow – all we have is hearts full of regrets. The regrets of the things that we could have done in those 900 months, trips you could have gone on in those 900 months, 900 wishes that could have been fulfilled which are still lingering on in your wish list. 900 ways of showing someone that you loved them dearly all through the days in smiles and in tears.

Ohh God, we keep chasing happiness in things that aren’t even real. We even train our subconscious mind around all these 900 months with mob mentality, cacophony, nickel-and-dime things such as A fancy appartment, or a latest iPhone, Brand new car and thus we actually get so lost in chasing material things that we forget the actual happiness..the real happiness of falling in love, happiness in making someone smile, cheering up a random stranger or the happiness of just sitting with closest buddies in the balcony and talking our hearts out entire night in our Pajamas.

We get so caught up in the life between Monday to Saturday’s or 9 to 6 pm that we forgot to love ourselves on those weary mornings, those uneasy evenings and all times in between too. We get so tired of the schedules, the deadlines, the meetings that we totally ignore the biggest deadline that we are riding on – The deadline of our Life.....Yes we have limited time with us....Every Day is once in a lifetime...!!!!

I don’t know who needs to read this/listen to this but its okay to miss a deadline or two in a while. Its okay to quit, its okay to fall down, its okay to cry those tears and clean our spirits, its okay to love ourselves fully because if we don’t then who will actually…!!!!

We relax on plane even though we don't know the pilot, We relax on ship even though we don't know the Captain, we relax on a bus even though we don't know the driver....Why don't we then relax in life knowing that the Universe/God has everything under control. We make our lives hard by always being in our heads...Life is Simple...get out of your head and get into the moment. Every minute of every day we are ageing, every encounter with others alters and shapes our ideas, we are continuous work in progress never quite the same.

Every man' life ends the same way. it is the only the details of how he/she lived and how he died that distinguishes one from the other......so Learn to forgive, Learn to love better, Learn to live, learn to laugh alone or with your dear ones who have been your pillars because when you are weak and alone at 75, these memories will be the only thing that will give you the strength to Stay Alive until you are gone..!!!!

I recall Khalil Gibran - 

Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you but by the attitude you bring to your life....not so much by what happens to you but by the way your mind looks at what happens.

 

A Crown, if it hurts us, is not worth wearing..!! 

(Posting Late but better late than never)

Celebration of Women is incomplete without thinking about Beauty (of Soul), Might (of Gut), Independence (of Thoughts), Agelessness (in love), Compassion (to hold & give), Celestial (to bless), Mystical (to empower). You would be thinking that these words are so general as we use them daily but now as you read them here, we all must be holding a deeper meanings for them, for we read it in context to WOMEN. Imagining various figures in our thoughts, our mothers, sisters, wives, daughters, even our co-workers and for all the bachelors your Girlfriends & even your Padosans, on a lighter note..!!  

We as a Women live in a different world, in a different paradise of our own. Our parents, our friends and sometimes we ourselves fail to recognize who we truly are and what our heart desires. We try to seek those answers in different people. We are told to earn, settle down, raise a family,but we seldom told to live, be happy, to seek what is inside us, to chase our dreams. People say that its very difficult to understand a Women, rather I will say we are as simple & as easy like Trignometry….oh please pardon my maths skills…(I even had to google the spelling of Trignometry)

What I want we all to remember (not just on Women’s Day but always) – Not to kill our inner child and bury it behind our mature face.

Introduce yourself to a NEW YOU, all resolutions actually start with treating yourself better. Chase your dreams, laugh out loud, don’t run in the programmed instructions.

It is ironical that we are perpetually trying to fit in when the world measures success via outliners. At some point of life, we should stop fighting with life and Embrace it & love it completely. My dear, God made you Magic so don’t you be blind to it.

Feel Free, awesome and complete in yourself…INFACT YOU ALREADY ARE..!! Unless our kids try to make fun of us saying – Mumma Apko kuch nahi pata how good is Garena Free Fire Game and then you scratch your head thinking what the hell is that and see your kid with an angry grin….to laugh again.

Everything you can really change is limited to you remember big shifts in life starts within you. I believe most Women secretly, sometimes more secretly know that there is infinite potential within them. God made us tender from outside but from inside loaded us with this innate Intuition and Strength, which our daily mundane life makes us unsee in us. We get so caught up in our own ways or we are too scared to acknowledge it even…. But in the deepest core We all know it is there, so UNLEASH it.

Don’t let the days of frustration or fulfillment, comparison or achievement, burden of responsibility or society don’t ever let us forget that we have INFINITY within us.

In whatever age you are in TODAY, you will be the youngest you will ever be. Somehow while relegating all the things we want to do in that certain future, we tend to forget this simple thing – A life fully lived is TODAY fully lived 💖

Every man is the sum total of his reactions to experience. As your experience differ and multiply and we become a different Man / Woman and so our perspective changes and this cycle goes on and on through life

so, living a life is ONLY & ALL about our perspectives

So it might seem foolish, would it not to adjust our lives to demands of a goal we see from a different angle everyday..??

How could we ever hope to accomplish anything...The answer then actually, must not deal with GOALS at all...We do not strive to be a fireman, banker nor policemen nor doctors 

WE STRIVE TO BE OURSELVES...but don't misunderstand me I don't mean we can't be firemen, banker or doctor....but that...We must make the goal conform to the individual, rather than make the individual conform to the goal.

Beware of looking for goals, look for a WAY OF LIFE 😎

Decide how you want to live, see from a larger perspective and then see what you can do to make a living WITHIN that way of life.

Love - A Magical Alchemy

If two people truly love each other they will continue to live together always naturally, without being forced to do so by any law or ceremony. The ceremonies and ritual of marriage looks so childish, infact the whole idea of marriage is amusing.

To unite your physical lives, your material interests, to become partners in order to face together the difficulties and successes, the defeats and victories of life — that is the very foundation of marriage, but you already know that it is not enough.

To be united in your sensations, to have the same aesthetic tastes and enjoyments, to be moved in common by the same things, one through the other and one for the other — that is good, that is necessary, but it is not enough.

To be one in your deeper feelings, to keep a mutual affection and tenderness that never vary in spite of all the blows of life and can withstand every weariness & irritation & disappointment, to be always and on every occasion happy, extremely happy, to be together, to find in every circumstance tranquility, peace and joy in each other — thats really really good, that is indispensable, but it is not enough.

To unite your minds, to harmonize your thoughts and make them complementary, to share your intellectual preoccupations and discoveries; in short, to make your sphere of mental activity identical through a widening and enrichment acquired by both at once — that is good, that is absolutely necessary, but it is not enough.

For instance, love between human beings, in all its forms, the love of parents for children, of brothers and sisters, of friends and lovers, is all tainted with ignorance, selfishness and all the other defects which are man’s ordinary drawbacks; yet one cannot completely cease to love — which, besides, is very difficult which would actually simply dry up the heart and non human.

One must learn how to love better: to love with self-giving, and to struggle, not against love itself, but against its distorted forms: against all forms of manipulation, possessiveness, jealousy and all the feelings which we feel as a part of love. 

Not to want to possess, to dominate; and not to want to impose one’s will, one’s whims, one’s desires; not to want to take, to receive, but actually to give; not to insist on the other’s response, but be content with one’s own love; not to seek one’s personal interest and joy or fulfillment of one’s personal desire, but to be satisfied with the giving of one’s love and affection. 

Simply to be happy to love, nothing more. If we do that, you have taken a great stride forward through this attitude,. It is like you have evolved your mindset which will gradually advance farther in the feeling itself and realize one day that love is not something personal anymore.

Certainly one has the right to love and true love carries in itself its joy, but discontentedly human beings are egoistic and immediately mix their love with their convenience and thus sufferings.

The one you love must have the right of freedom in his / her feelings and if you want the truth you must understand this right and accept it.

I have felt People perceive love differently –

One loves only when one is loved.

One loves spontaneously, but one wants to be loved in return.

One loves even if one is not loved, but one still wants one's love to be accepted.

And Finally when one loves purely and simply, without any other need or joy than that of loving – A wow feeling actually which could never go away

Love is not sexual but a deeper intimacy. Love is not vital attraction and interchange. Love is not the heart's hunger for affection.

Love is a mighty vibration coming straight from your soul, and only the very pure and very strong are capable of receiving and manifesting it.

To be in love is to be open, to be willing, to be giving and feel joyful to create memories that will never ever fade away. 

 

BON VOYAGE...!!!!!!!

 

Ari always had a touring job, perhaps I felt this most while we were in our early marriage days for obvious reasons. It has been 6 years we are married now and I should be habitual of it by now....Can't say perfectly...!!!!!!

Indeed some distance and stay away always helps to break free the monotonous daily life and schedule, helps to rekindle the spark which might get lost due to routine. For us as well it is GREAT to see each other after spending few days alone & away. Can't resist his monkey HUG when he usually comes back in my arms after any tour...!!!!! Awww..!!!!

This time he has luckily bagged a golden opportunity and first time in his life he has gone to Germany – Frankfurt...What a big deal...then ask a person who has never been out of country even once. HE WAS ALSO EXCITED LIKE A KID.....shopped stuff, been to the saloon for a nice haircut, packed the bag and packed it again & again...hee..heeee...I was silently watching the STUPID side of his....which was very hilarious.

While he left on 18^th early morning to catch his flight...I hugged him tight & kissed him wild and said that – have a happy journey and do enjoy yourself...!!!!! I know he would start missing me in a day or so but even though I wanted him to stay excited and gay as he leaves.

He was going for Training of 2 weeks for some new medical equipment which his company has added in the product list. I remember the day when he successfully demonstrated the product to fetch an handsome order even without any training. When his boss asked him to go to Germany for the training he simply replied – No need sir, I have got an expertise without it. Still his Boss made him go.

Anyhow, it has been a day since he has gone and I am missing him like anything ...AS USUAL.....Received a call last night that he safely landed and would call me again...!!!!! Don't know how would be spending 2 weeks without him.....knowing he is traveling nowadays to Germany – Frankfurt...WITHOUT MEE....!!!!!!!  :- (

My Home...Sweet....Home

I have something special to say today...its been a week since we moved in to MY NEW HOME, have been busy like anything managing everything on my own but still ITS A COMPLETE DIFFERENT FEELING and I feel the words could hardly put across my expressions....HOME...not mere a word rather A PLACE.....many of us dream of....A place where from hustling restless life one feels relaxed, thoughts get created and mind gets charged up....a caring & cozy feeling that one feels...even if things surrounding are stationary but I feel sometimes the painting, the souvenir, even the wall and the windows talking to me saying – You are the one who has filled life across our non-living existence. This feeling itself sends many positive vibes through my soul and I feel very much confounded.

Today when I look back all these years, I realise how God has just keep blessing me silently....when I remembered him on all the situations in my life asking him why he forgot me....like always he has answered me today also with a blessing and greatest sense of achievement, I can't even thank him enough for thinking me worthy of this....not to forget my elders & well wishers who have been there with unending support and kindness.

I have started with a milestone today...and I aspire to build my own world and fill my sweet little home with all the WARMTH...LOVE AND CARING...my heart...my soul could give. Ari, me & my little darling we all would contribute evenly in this. ARI would add warmth, security & support. I would give in love, caring & emotions and my little Rudranil would add his amazing energy, fun and a home filled with his laughter...GOD..!!!! Please Bless us and Be with us today...tomorrow and forever.

Mamma’s Boy

I love your stubby fingers and your crooked little toes

I love your chubby cheeks and your little button nose

I love your big black eyes and your pretty auburn hair

I love your rosy lips and your dimpled smile

I know one day you’ll grow up to be wonderful

and forget to play with all these toys

Wondering how does Mamma knows?

Because you’re my darling... Mamma’s boy