Love - A Magical Alchemy
If two people truly love each
other they will continue to live together always naturally, without being
forced to do so by any law or ceremony. The ceremonies and ritual of marriage
looks so childish, infact the whole idea of marriage is amusing.
To unite your physical lives, your
material interests, to become partners in order to face together the
difficulties and successes, the defeats and victories of life — that is the
very foundation of marriage, but you already know that it is not enough.
To be united in your sensations,
to have the same aesthetic tastes and enjoyments, to be moved in common by the
same things, one through the other and one for the other — that is good, that
is necessary, but it is not enough.
To be one in your deeper feelings,
to keep a mutual affection and tenderness that never vary in spite of all the
blows of life and can withstand every weariness & irritation &
disappointment, to be always and on every occasion happy, extremely happy, to
be together, to find in every circumstance tranquility, peace and joy in each
other — thats really really good, that is indispensable, but it is not enough.
To unite your minds, to harmonize
your thoughts and make them complementary, to share your intellectual
preoccupations and discoveries; in short, to make your sphere of mental
activity identical through a widening and enrichment acquired by both at once —
that is good, that is absolutely necessary, but it is not enough.
For instance, love between human
beings, in all its forms, the love of parents for children, of brothers and
sisters, of friends and lovers, is all tainted with ignorance, selfishness and
all the other defects which are man’s ordinary drawbacks; yet one cannot
completely cease to love — which, besides, is very difficult which would
actually simply dry up the heart and non human.
One must learn how to love better:
to love with self-giving, and to struggle, not against love itself, but against
its distorted forms: against all forms of manipulation, possessiveness,
jealousy and all the feelings which we feel as a part of love.
Not to want to possess, to
dominate; and not to want to impose one’s will, one’s whims, one’s desires; not
to want to take, to receive, but actually to give; not to insist on the other’s
response, but be content with one’s own love; not to seek one’s personal
interest and joy or fulfillment of one’s personal desire, but to be satisfied
with the giving of one’s love and affection.
Simply to be happy to love,
nothing more. If we do that, you have taken a great stride forward through this
attitude,. It is like you have evolved your mindset which will gradually
advance farther in the feeling itself and realize one day that love is not
something personal anymore.
Certainly one has the right to
love and true love carries in itself its joy, but discontentedly human beings
are egoistic and immediately mix their love with their convenience and thus sufferings.
The one you love must have the
right of freedom in his / her feelings and if you want the truth you must
understand this right and accept it.
I have felt People perceive love
differently –
One loves only when one is loved.
One loves spontaneously, but one
wants to be loved in return.
One loves even if one is not
loved, but one still wants one's love to be accepted.
And Finally when one loves purely
and simply, without any other need or joy than that of loving – A wow feeling
actually which could never go away
Love is not sexual but a deeper intimacy.
Love is not vital attraction and interchange. Love is not the heart's hunger
for affection.
Love is a mighty vibration coming
straight from your soul, and only the very pure and very strong are capable of
receiving and manifesting it.
To be
in love is to be open, to be willing, to be giving and feel joyful to create
memories that will never ever fade away.
